Just Figure It Out

When I was small enough to have to raise my arm to hold my father’s hand, we would walk around the block in the evenings while he smoked a cigar.  Half way round, he’d stop, take the cigar out of his mouth, slide off the ring and hand it to me.  I’d slip it carefully onto my index finger as if it were a diamond and then we’d resume our walk, hand-in-hand.  Looking back, I know he was happy then. He was young, he had a beautiful wife and a growing family; his future looked bright and uncomplicated.  He loved his job too; his technical skills, experience and “figure-it-out” nature were a perfect fit for his job as a supervising machinist at the Brooklyn Navy Yard.

Immersing myself in my father’s model railroad hobby has made me realize how much we have in common; just yesterday I actually fixed a locomotive; it wasn’t running, so I took it apart and fixed it.  I had no idea what I was doing, but I figured it out; I’m sort of fearless when it comes to this kind of problem-solving.  Recently, I decided to refinish and reupholster an armchair that belonged to my parents.  That I’ve never refinished or reupholstered anything before is no deterrent; the challenge of figuring out how to do something I’ve never done before is too compelling to even think of hiring an expert to do the job, even if I end up ruining a really nice chair.  In this way I’m like my father; he too was unable to resist the allure of an unsolved technical problem, a malfunctioning machine, or a task requiring expertise he lacked. If he required a tool that did not exist, he created one; if he couldn’t figure out how to fix something, he Jerry rigged a way to make it work well enough.

Like me, he was also a researcher.  “Look it up,” he’d order.  In those days this meant pulling an encyclopedia off the shelf or perusing the card catalog at the library.  Tasks others left to experienced tradesmen were no obstacle when Dad was armed with a good book and the proper tools; laying tile, repairing plumbing, refinishing wood floors, repairing cars, refrigerators and washing machines all became part of his handyman repertoire.  While today I can Google “chair reupholstery” to reveal a plethora of how-to articles and videos, the drive is the same; I will figure it out because I believe I can.

My father was also a reader; he ate a book a day.  He fostered my hunger for books by denying my access to them.  Each year he bought every single book listed in my school-issued Scholastic catalog. After laboring to carry home my enormous pile of literary treasures, he forced me to surrender them, stripping me of a library of wonders to stow high up on his closet shelf.  He tantalized me with the possibility of earning a story; if I got an A on a test or completed a chore, he slipped a book into my impatient hands as a reward.  I developed a Pavlovian response to the scent of old volumes; to the thrill of opening a new book; to reading titles sideways in the library stacks; to the bitter sweetness of a final page turned.

During one visit with him in the nursing home the year he passed away, I noticed that the pressure wraps on his legs were put on wrong.  A physical therapy intern was available to help us out; he agreed that the wraps were a mess and set to work fixing them.

My father said, “How come you knew that?”
“Because you taught me, Dad,” I replied.
“But I didn’t teach you that,” he said.
“Oh yes you did,” I said, “What did you always teach me to do?”
Dad looked down at the intern, looked up at me and then slowly, he smiled.
“I know. Ask!”
“Yes, Dad, that’s right. You taught me to ask.”

Looking up at me, grinning, he said, “But I thought all I gave you was the ring from my cigar.”

  11 comments for “Just Figure It Out

  1. Helen Shields
    July 22, 2017 at 8:55 pm

    Awesome, another fabulous chapter.

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  2. Rachel Kraut
    July 23, 2017 at 4:11 am

    Love you!!

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  3. Alan Mende
    July 23, 2017 at 9:50 am

    Mary, you are truly a gifted writer. Thank you (many times) for each of your posts. They are more than just selling your dad’s trains.

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  4. o2bhongo
    July 23, 2017 at 1:34 pm

    This piece glides like a freshly repaired Buick Electra. Really well done, Mary.

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    • July 23, 2017 at 11:39 pm

      Thank you! Love the analogy.

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  5. Craig Ward
    July 23, 2017 at 3:28 pm

    Great story, Mary! My grandfather was just like that. He worked for an alarm company (burgler, fire, etc.). He loved electronics, if he didn’t have a tool, he’d make one. He passed that knowledge on to my brother.

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    • July 23, 2017 at 3:43 pm

      Yes in those days tradespeople were artists. Forget the doctors and lawyers; It may be the plumbers and electricians who inherit the earth! Thanks!

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  6. Laurie
    July 24, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Truly heartwarming and so well written, Mary. Having the honor of meeting your Dad only twice, you described him and your relationship with him, as I also remembered him.
    My Dad always told me, “look it up” as well. And yes, it meant going to the bookcase stacked with the black covered encyclopedias to find out the answers to my questions!

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  7. Christine
    July 24, 2017 at 5:02 pm

    Loved this!

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